Bullying…
An attempt to make oneself feel better
At the expense of someone else!
Bullies pointing fingers at junior boy, mocking nerd
Bullying behavior can be driven by various factors or circumstances. Here are some common reasons:
1. Need for Power or Control: Some bullies exert dominance over others to feel powerful, in control, or superior. This could be rooted in their personal life, where they may feel powerless or out of control.
2. Lack of Attention: Bullies may be seeking attention from their peers, family, or teachers, and unfortunately resort to negative behavior to get it.
3. Victim of Bullying: Sometimes, a bully has been, or is currently being, bullied themselves. It’s a learned behavior for some people who have been bullied or mistreated.
4. Peer Pressure: In certain social structures, bullying can be seen as an acceptable way to fit in. Some bullies succumb to the pressure to be a part of the crowd and to avoid becoming a target themselves.
5. Low Self-Esteem: Individuals with low self-esteem might bully others to make themselves feel better due to their own insecurities.
6. Lack of Empathy: Bullies often lack the ability to empathize with others, which can cause them to disregard how their actions affect those around them.
7. Unresolved Personal Issues: Some bullies are dealing with personal issues, such as family problems, academic struggle, or emotional distress, and they project their frustrations onto others.
Remember, these are potential factors, not justifications. Bullying is harmful, unacceptable behavior that can have long-lasting effects on the victims. Everyone deserves respect and kindness, and it’s essential for communities to work together to prevent and address this issue.
When people talk about bullying, the general consensus is that it is bad and anti-social. So the obvious question is why does it continue, if it’s so wrong? People generally want this sort of thing to stop, but no one wants to get hurt standing up to a bully. That’s a valid point. But if you look at the research incident outcomes improve drastically if you stand with the victim. Which means, help the victim. Console them, get them help, help them in any way you can. When you do this, studies show that incident rates actually fall because every time someone stands with the victim, there becomes one person in the victim “pool” for the bully. Besides it will make you feel really good to help someone out who is in need.
cyber bullying concept. people using notebook computer laptop for social media interactions with notification icons of hate speech and mean comment in social network
Master Bill DeGrafft is an active member of the United Tang Soo Do Federation and is a Certified 5th Dan Master Instructor, having also trained in Sun Mu Sul, Chen Style Taiji, Tai Chi Gung, and Wing Chun. He is the owner at Ponte Vedra Martial Arts Academy. He is also COBRA Self Defense Certified and the Academy is the areas only Authorized COBRA Training Center. Learn more about the academy at https:pvmaa.com, “Like” us on Facebook at PonteVedraMartialArtsAcademy and follow up on Instagram, pontevedramartialartsacademy.
